Safety and children in the dark

November 30, 2015

Safety and children in the dark

I debated about writing a blog about this. I called several friends who lived in different regions and asked them their opinions. My friend who lives out where the hay bales are as big as the cars had one opinion, my sister-in-law who lives on Long Island had a different opinion.

In the end, for me, it boils down to safety.

Being brave is important. Teaching your children to have manners, morality, and about sex & drugs is important, as well as hard. That is being brave.

Giving your children room to grow and mature is important, and hard. We want them to leave the bubble of safety, to take responsibility, to thrive and grow into mature adults who can contribute to society in a positive way.

That said, I was driving home after dark a week or so ago. Both my children were in the car. It was maybe 6pm. We were chatting about the day. I stopped at the stop sign before turning right onto our street.

I happen to see some faint twinkling lights in the middle of the street. I can’t tell you how grateful I am to have stopped my car instantly.

I narrowly missed hitting three children.

Three boys were standing in the middle of the street playing chicken in the dark with the cars that turned on the road. The oldest was maybe 9 or 10, the youngest was 6.

I saw they were safe, and then I rolled down my window and yelled at them for putting their lives in danger. I was terrified and angry and scared, and furious.

For me, it boils down to safety.

The three boys were out the next night, holding flashlights and standing on the grass. Whenever a car would come down the road, they would shine a flashlight directly at the driver. The driver was temporarily blinded by the light, which is dangerous in any situation.

Surely, there has to be a better solution. One that involves neither the children nor the drivers being in harm’s way.

I challenge you to come up with a new solution. Or, at least to open up a dialogue with your loved ones about safety, cars, and the dark. We all need to be aware of our surroundings, especially what we cannot control and how we can choose to react.

May your week be peaceful and turkey free.