I remember the Serenity Prayer –
G-d grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
When faced with a fait accompli – do you argue, do you fight, do you accept? If you fight hard enough, will it make a difference? Will it get you where you want to be?
Or, is where you want to be right here?
A dear friend of mine wished me something special on Sunday. She knew Mother’s Day would be bittersweet for me. She wished me inner peace.
The first step is when presented with the fait accompli – the facts that my present lifestyle will change (again) – is to picture it. What does that look like for me? Is this a place I want to be?
We wrap our identities around who we think we are at a given point in time. How accurate is a snapshot when everything is changing daily?
I used to believe in coincidences – I don’t anymore. I also don’t believe in luck. I do believe that everything happens for a reason, even though we may not understand or agree with what happens when it is happening.
This doesn’t mean I don’t cry or get mad or upset. My husband will tell you that I most certainly cry, and quite a bit this past year. (I bought mascara in the hopes that if I wore it, I would tear up less – instead I merely look like a raccoon…)
The difference is that I try not to let it stop me from doing what I need to do for me and for my family.
Time helps me to process changes.
I still miss Mom every day, even though I know she is with me. Missing her is easier and harder nearly ten months later.
Sometimes writing it out and breathing helps, too. There is reason amongst even the most chaotic of places.
This is my faith. This is my inner peace. This is my serenity.
My wish for you is to find your inner peace, your serenity.